My Man

Here he is. Ron G. The man that has helped create the life I now know. In June, 2009, we celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary. It's a bit strange sometimes to ponder something of this magnitude and realize that so many years have passed and you have been married for over one-half of your lifetime - and married to the same person for that long.

But in this era of time when many people are in their second and third marriages, there is also a great comfort and feeling of accomplishment that also arises when you contemplate this accomplishment.  And without this particular man, I would not have have been blessed with the particular two wonderful children who have brought such joy to my life.

In the early years of your marriage, your relationship is slowly evolving even when you get so wrapped up in the activities of daily life and forget about paying close attention to your marriage. Then years down the road, you look back with awe at how the relationship has evolved and the two individuals have evolved. In the early years of marriage, many young couples are convinced they can "change" their partner. They talk with friends and read books and think about how they can bring about these desired changes. But after years of loving and living together, your love matures and you realize that you can simply allow the other person to be their own self. And because you learn to love them just as they are, your love deepens even more. At a certain age you have quietly moved into living out the phrase "actions speak louder than words". In the early years as a couple, you focused on dancing the dance of life together. Then years later, you realize that you are two people who have somewhat mastered dancing a tango and two solos at the same time.

Once upon a time, we were newlyweds. Yet now Ron and I can be described as oldyweds.. But oldyweds are the reasons that families work. And...once upon a time continues.